Sometimes a lot can happen in a short amount of time that it feels like so many years in one year. And this can teach a lot. Below, I’ll share some things that I learned/discovered in the past few months:
1. You don’t always have to do it on your own. Sometimes it takes a village and that is okay. My journey in researching and applying for university, then applying for a visa had me realize that point. That sometimes it is okay to accept the help. Saying yes when someone offers you something doesn’t make you weak.
2. You can hate your own best friend. The hate doesn’t come from a place where you’d wish them bad things or you’d rather die than talk to them. The type of hate I am talking about is when your best friend does something hurtful and you become distant. Then you miss them and wanna share memes or ridiculous thoughts, but you can’t bring yourself to do that. You hate them because they took your best friend (themselves) away from you. But you still deeply care about them.
3. Big things that normally take a long time can happen in a very short time. Sometimes you think about, let’s say buying a car. It might sound a bit difficult. Planning what to buy, how to save up, etc. It may seem like it will take months. But something could happen and you suddenly are all set and get what you want within weeks or days.
4. You can be doing the thing you want and/or love but still be sad at times. Being sad is normal at times, we are humans and have complex emotions. We usually relate happiness to the things we want, and think that when we get that specific thing, we’ll magically be the happiest beings in the universe. We shouldn’t attach our happiness to one thing only, or getting to one specific goal.
5. Going through all the paperwork regarding my studies, waiting for decisions on my university and visa applications have helped to acquire more patience. I’m still in the process, especially with my overthinking and anxiety about how anything can go wrong any minute. But practice makes perfect. I try to remind myself to not stress out and live in the moment. What is ours will find its way to us.
6. Before, I used to dwell on the things that happened in the past and how I could have behaved differently to supposedly have better outcomes, or regret some decisions that I made. But I have come to the conclusion that no matter how much I feel regret, nothing will change and life just moves forward. All I can do is learn from the experiences and go on with my life. No amount of regret or thinking can change the past. My new motto is I don’t regret anything in life, because with or without regret I can’t go back in time. And I am exactly where I am meant to be right now.
7. I usually tell myself to work hard and take breaks when necessary. However, since last year I haven’t had a proper rest; especially mentally. And it’s still ongoing. The mental challenges are draining me and sometimes I feel like giving up. But I remind myself that I am doing this for myself, no one else will do it for me. No matter how long the challenges last, this too shall pass. I might not get the proper rest I badly need, I make sure to take small breaks here and there to help me cope with all that I am going through.
8. You can make friends in your twenties who will mean the world to you. And in my humble opinion, it is important to tell them how you feel about them. To let them know that you appreciate their existence in your life.
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